
You had a nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach just chalked it to indigestion. You thought you heard a couple of snide comments, but you let it go, since you did not catch the essence of what was said.
Tonight there was no mistake. Your date invited you to go on a group outing with some of their friends. The moment you step out of the car you knew not to work.
First it was the way they greeted you. Or should we say that the way in which they do not greet you. It was a combination of winter chill and flaming arrows. And when the plans were worked out as to where the group went this evening, you had the brutality to a suggestion. Certainly in the real world it was a good idea solid, but not in Friendsville. Did they shoot your proposal? With both barrels, but it did not stop there.
Now it suddenly became their small group joke to you for the rest of the evening. Those snide remarks that you thought you had previously thought that proved to be all too true. They also started huddling up among themselves in a blatant display to deliberately let you out. Worse still, they attract your date in the clique so on more than a few occasions that you leave them alone.
If your credit with all this you kept your cool but what happens to your date? Truth to tell them no notice and if they did they certainly do not say that anything about it.
Cracking the friend code is one of the hardest parts about dating. Sometimes you get a warmer and more inviting reception date of your immediate family you will their friends.
Why the fuss? It may inconvenience of hiring someone in the group. Another fear that once they lose their friend. In some cases, none of the above. They just do not like you and that is that.
That mean is the decision of the time. Giving that you are going to continue to date this person what can you do?
1. Give back
Okay they want for a number of nasty comments in order. You have a couple you've been chomping at the bit to use. As you would expect, this could go a number of ways. The group may admire you for fighting back and standing your ground or you can just read World War III with your date as the battlefield.
2. Talk to your date
Asking your date to express their views about their friends' behavior may be a good idea, but here's the deal, but if they have not noticed what has been before, they may not be that much help. You tell your date to alleviate or says that the way in which their friends indicate that they like you. That is all well and good, but that was the object of constant ridicule group does not make you feel like part of the gang.
3. Your Crew
The next time your date, the group thing, it brings a number of your people along. Note that while this may give you a feeling of comfort and security can stop a lot of tension in the air, especially if you tell your shit some of the things that were said about you.
Your date very opposite direction of their friends. From their perspective they want you so bad that they have a good feeling about the introduction of their circle. That is a compliment so take it as such. But that does not mean that you're here to be disrespected.
The key is not to intimidate. Keep feet with as little as possible and hostility are still yourself. You may never win it all at your side, but some people will come. Even if they do not, one thing is clear: As long as you agree with their friend, you are here to stay, so they better get used to.