Relationship Dating: Aren't You Going Dutch?

There is already a good night. You and your date met at one of those trendy restaurants. Yes it is a kind of upscale place, but it has a good vibe down to earth. The conversation between the two of you was nothing less than breathtaking. You came prepared with plenty of material to talk about. Shows that you do not really need. The natural connection that the two parts of you just took over and before you knew it a few hours passed.

The dinner was the bomb. Everything was well prepared and tasty. You and your date are agreed that this would place a regular spot. That is until you reach the check.

You were so together that you lost track of who you both ordered half portions. And wow did it add up. Factor in the gratuitous tip and it seems that you may have to take out a loan from the bank to pay for this meal.

That is unfortunately not the worst. Now as a result of a lack of communication, there is confusion about who is going to pay what. You thought you were going to date because you pay the one who asked them. You thought they were going to pay or at least chip in, because they are the ones who suggested this overpriced establishment with the chubby food (amazing how a bill can change your perspective). You would have been met will Mickey D's and ordering a happy meal.

Nevertheless, the grand gesture and will pay the full amount, but that does not mean that you're comfortable with. Your senses date, but this is not quite sure what to say. Suddenly, all those great chemistry has been replaced by an uncomfortable silence. Goodbye at the door is nothing more than a grunt and a mumble. Then it is over. Maybe in more ways than one.

It would be natural that the question of who pays what should be worked out in advance, but over the years has tripped up many would dating partners. In the old days it was assumed the man would automatically go into the tab for everything. Fortunately, those days are gone. Sort of. Although many women have no problems with the bill, there are a few of the old school mentality. Some men obviously feel the same way, but everyone wants to be treated from time to time.

The point is to not let yourself get into this kind of situation again. You can always call and your date are sorry for what has occurred and your attitude afterwards. You may have something to eat humble pie and tell them that you blame for the confusion. Hopefully, your date will be on the same wavelength and shoulder some of that responsibility. Even if they do not and you still feel good about each other make plans to go out again and decide who should pay.

You could take turns or decide to go Dutch for awhile. Not control what somebody else decides to order a huge burden on your shoulders.

You are not cheap kate, like your date. But we live in expensive times and it seems that the cost of everything is going up. Therefore it's more than understandable that you do not want to be the one that will always be a reservoir of the dollar on a date. But keep in mind that the other person is also feeling the economic squeeze. Try to find that common ground that is agreeable to you both. Then enjoy your nights in the city.