Women have made substantial progress in eliminating the obstacles and double standards that were so commonplace a generation ago. It does not mean that we as a society have achieved equal opportunities plateau, but things change.
However, the double standard in some areas not only exists but remains anchored. A perfect example is in the older man younger woman relationship.
When the shoe is on the other foot, an older man young woman, it seems that the perspective changes significantly. Because it has been around and accepted longer than most of us can remember. An older man gets a pat on the back while listening to an overwhelming majority of people singing his praise. He is just a common refrain.
Not so for the older woman. It is all too often regarded as indecent or shameful that they would even consider dating someone outside of her age group. Never mind the fact that both parties are two adult persons who happen to find each other attractive while enjoying their time together.
Currently, there is a new terminology for the older woman younger man called cougar dating dating. The implication is fun and intimacy without any serious commitment for many adults and that is okay.
But in essence means puma on the prowl ready to pounce on an unsuspecting prey and moving on. Also understand that term does not apply to both parties. Specifically, it is the older woman seen as the predator.
Yes some sophisticated older women may be interested in nothing more than a one night stand or a May-December romance. But as you already figured out that is the way it is with much older men, but nobody calls that kind of lion dating relationship.
Or to do some good unattached older women from the name for itself is irrelevant. The point is the society has decided to realize the choice of words and paint this kind of relationship as something other than what it is.
People are people and no matter what the age difference and whether there are different motivations and desires at work when it comes to a relationship.
For the majority of older women younger men is about two people. Nothing more, nothing less. Like any relationship dates, there is a certain attraction of the compatibility and a willingness to see if there is something to build. The fact that an older woman is taken while the label for this kind of a relationship tells you as a society we still have a long way to go when it comes to female equality.
However, the double standard in some areas not only exists but remains anchored. A perfect example is in the older man younger woman relationship.
When the shoe is on the other foot, an older man young woman, it seems that the perspective changes significantly. Because it has been around and accepted longer than most of us can remember. An older man gets a pat on the back while listening to an overwhelming majority of people singing his praise. He is just a common refrain.
Not so for the older woman. It is all too often regarded as indecent or shameful that they would even consider dating someone outside of her age group. Never mind the fact that both parties are two adult persons who happen to find each other attractive while enjoying their time together.
Currently, there is a new terminology for the older woman younger man called cougar dating dating. The implication is fun and intimacy without any serious commitment for many adults and that is okay.
But in essence means puma on the prowl ready to pounce on an unsuspecting prey and moving on. Also understand that term does not apply to both parties. Specifically, it is the older woman seen as the predator.
Yes some sophisticated older women may be interested in nothing more than a one night stand or a May-December romance. But as you already figured out that is the way it is with much older men, but nobody calls that kind of lion dating relationship.
Or to do some good unattached older women from the name for itself is irrelevant. The point is the society has decided to realize the choice of words and paint this kind of relationship as something other than what it is.
People are people and no matter what the age difference and whether there are different motivations and desires at work when it comes to a relationship.
For the majority of older women younger men is about two people. Nothing more, nothing less. Like any relationship dates, there is a certain attraction of the compatibility and a willingness to see if there is something to build. The fact that an older woman is taken while the label for this kind of a relationship tells you as a society we still have a long way to go when it comes to female equality.
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