You were the life of the party when you meet your date the family. You laughed at their jokes and even told a few good yourself. You do not hog one of the interviews, nor were you just a wallflower either. You had the right balance in listening, speaking and asking intelligent questions without trying to be nosy.
So it comes as a stunning shock to you when your date tells you that their family did not warm up to you. No, that is to say the least pressing. Try a dislike to the highway exit ramp to hate country.
The news is true you for a loop. Note that he did the same on your dating partner. It felt so good about you, and that is why they were so proud to tell you in the family. Now their attitude that they are in no uncertain terms to your date has left you both shaken.
Not much you can do against the odds anyway? Maybe.
1. Explore
Check with your date what it was that you said or did that rubbed his or her family the wrong way. Sometimes you can say or do things that strike you as trivial but can also be a major bottleneck for some another. Let your date to play detective and report back to you.
2. Survey
Ask your date, he was everyone in the family moving in that way or just someone specific. At times the loudest voice is interpreted as the only or at least one voice that speaks for everyone. Find out how many people felt that way. It is possible that not every body parts feelings. Some family members may not have expressed an opinion one way or another.
3. You do not care
That is an attitude that some people might not want to try, but for others has been through a lot of difficult situations. You say to yourself that you do not want to see that these people all the time so their opinion does not matter. Your date has no need or desire to break because of their opinions and neither do you. What they say does not affect you one way or another. If they do not want you then that is their hard luck.
You may have done something wrong and is the epitome of manners and good taste, but for whatever reason, people are not going to like you and your date with the family. Talk it over with your date and make a decision. If you decide to stay together with your stay classy date of the family. Do not find yourself sink to their level and for recurrent negative negative.
So it comes as a stunning shock to you when your date tells you that their family did not warm up to you. No, that is to say the least pressing. Try a dislike to the highway exit ramp to hate country.
The news is true you for a loop. Note that he did the same on your dating partner. It felt so good about you, and that is why they were so proud to tell you in the family. Now their attitude that they are in no uncertain terms to your date has left you both shaken.
Not much you can do against the odds anyway? Maybe.
1. Explore
Check with your date what it was that you said or did that rubbed his or her family the wrong way. Sometimes you can say or do things that strike you as trivial but can also be a major bottleneck for some another. Let your date to play detective and report back to you.
2. Survey
Ask your date, he was everyone in the family moving in that way or just someone specific. At times the loudest voice is interpreted as the only or at least one voice that speaks for everyone. Find out how many people felt that way. It is possible that not every body parts feelings. Some family members may not have expressed an opinion one way or another.
3. You do not care
That is an attitude that some people might not want to try, but for others has been through a lot of difficult situations. You say to yourself that you do not want to see that these people all the time so their opinion does not matter. Your date has no need or desire to break because of their opinions and neither do you. What they say does not affect you one way or another. If they do not want you then that is their hard luck.
You may have done something wrong and is the epitome of manners and good taste, but for whatever reason, people are not going to like you and your date with the family. Talk it over with your date and make a decision. If you decide to stay together with your stay classy date of the family. Do not find yourself sink to their level and for recurrent negative negative.
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